This article was originally published on a prior version of my blog. This is fairly thought provoking interview with Stephanie Coontz on gender roles in work and marriage and the progress of feminism. What struck me most however was the ideas she discusses 1/2 way through the article, on paradoxes and trades: “The same things that could be really helpful in constructing and sustaining a … Read More Paradox and Trades – Some thoughts on the Atlantic’s Interview with Stephanie Coontz
Originally Posted June 2014 on an earlier version of this blog. As someone diagnosed with a chronic pain condition, this quote (often attributed to Buddha), is one of those helpful pieces of advice often given by people who really don’t want to listen to how you are feeling, but asked anyway. It is something both profoundly true and utterly impossible to see when overwhelmed … Read More Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.
The following article appeared on an earlier version of this blog. “I have been given a taste for what is beautiful….” Trans. Barks, Coleman; Moyne, John (2009-10-13). The Drowned Book. HarperCollins. Our distinct way of finding peace with ourselves and the world around us, we are of this world. Regardless of what our story of creation may be, regardless of where we believe we … Read More from the The Drowned Book
I spent some time this week with my 3 year old nephew is just learning to ski, and it had me thinking about the attitude or energy we call confidence. There are 2 basic types of confidence. The first is earned with years of practice, knowledge, and experience. The second is sheer bravado. Its probably the 1st, hard earned, version that deserves more attention, … Read More Feeling Just Confidant Enough To Do Something Stupid…
“Beauty and grace are performed whether or not we will or sense them. The least we can do is try to be there.” – Annie Dillard Sometimes its easier to see the ugly truth – all of the pain, suffering, and bad behavior, along with our fears, can be overwhelming. & whether that comes from the media we consume, the people we surround ourselves … Read More Beauty & Grace
This article was originally posted about 3 years ago to an earlier version of this blog. Brian Lahrer conducts a captivating interview with Jeanne Bishop, author of Change of Heart: Justice, Mercy, and Making Peace with my Sister’s Killer, on the process of forgiveness that began her healing after the death of her sister in the Boston Marathon Bombings. The violent death of a loved … Read More No Right or Wrong Answer…In the news – Forgiveness
I know you know this and still I feel the need to remind you… “It could be worse,” is not a useful perspective. It implies that the pain or discomfort we are in is somehow insignificant, that it should be written off, and conversely, that the joys and gifts in our lives are somehow not enough. Beyond how we see the glass, “half full” … Read More An Open Letter To A Friend
Half a job done is better than nothing at all. One of the great challenges I see when clients are trying to develop new habits is the perfectionist mind set. It seems we all want to be experts immediately. Or before we even begin we want the circumstances of our lives to be exactly right – the right about of time, the right atmosphere, … Read More Something is better then nothing…